Archive for October, 2006

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Oct 14, 2006 in My Shout Outs

One of the topics I created on the mylot website (link in earlier postings) is about love and sex. Can love exist without sex? Of course I am referring to a romantic love between a couplee and making love. Is it an integral part of a relationship? I feel it is. The feeling of unity and expression of affection for one another. It complements love. Of course there are many ways to share affection and making love is just one of them. There are people who’s partner are miles away or they have physical disabilities that do not allow sexual intercourse to happen and love still exist. Why not? But if both parties are fit and able and there is no sex, something is wrong somewhere.

Long ago it was the era where people go without sex till they are married. Perhaps mindsets have changed over time and making love is part and parcel of it all these days. Sex makes me feel attractive to the other. The feeling of being wanted. The hugs, kisses and holding of hands.

Sex doesn’t always mean everything and doesn’t determine there is love. There is a fine line in between. Everyone could see things differently when it comes to their own relationship. Thing is, you may feel a certain way, but the other party has other ideas. What would you do?

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Oct 10, 2006 in My Shout Outs

My dear and I have been very busy posting at mylot. You can find the link below. It has very good topics, some of which have outrageous posts so we have been busy there.

He’ll prolly put up a vid clip of me complaining (it is exaggerated but I was very hungry and angry!) about Vivocity soon.

Watched WTC too.

I read some posts before watching the movie so i was quite prepared for a flop. It did turn out better than i thought.

Boring yes. Maybe cause the story is focussed on the 2 main leads and their families. Perhaps people expected more drama and focus on the impact like the documentary on CNA.

I wonder if united 93 will be shown…

I think the show is worth watching anyway. It can be draggy, but wasn’t bad enough to get me asleep.

Good point on the story not hinting on the race/religion of the people behind the attacks. Neutral point of view and stuck to its main focus most of the time, which I felt was a good attempt. It is so easy to make a mess out of a movie by incorporating too many events into the show.

GV Vivo isn’t bad. Good seat pitch! But PLS… if you plan to go to Vivo please have something to eat first. Cause apart from sushi tei there is nothing else. No 7-11 no mac no BK no carls jr no food court no kopi thiam CAUSE THEY ARE NOT OPENED YET ARRRRGH!

I am waiting for United 93… will they show it here soon?

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Oct 08, 2006 in My Shout Outs

Apart from some other stuff I have been thinking, I have been wondering, why is it clubbing seems to be in my life even when I don’t want it to. It is a long overdue retirement and all, but perhaps back of my mind I realise due to the network I have in clubs I wonder if I can ever break free.

I have toned down a hell lot. Perhaps it is the people in the club. It is what I find that’s probably annoying me the most. The people. No not my friends. My friends are always the coolest of the lot. Even my mom is always asking me to go clubbing with her. Good gracious what on earth is happening. But yeh I have toned down a lot. I’m sorta worried I would like bore my baby to death and all. The so called night life in my context no longer has anything to do with clubs. Interestingly, over the past couple times clubbing actually made me feel worse. hah hah… strange..

The prince is a settled down prince. No longer wild and all. Maybe the fact that my school and work issues are bugging me to death and affecting my mood. Perhaps when I get school out of the way and I get the work I want (I’m getting broke!) my mood will improve. I won’t say I will never step in and enjoy myself like I used to, but it is gonna take a long long while to save up that hyped up energy for that one night.

Question remains. Why is it still part of my life? Networks perhaps. Technically other than Ben, none of my close friends are clubbers. I don’t meet my close friends very often anyway. My dear hasn’t met them yet even hah hah. That is how things are with us. Close at heart. Abscence makes the heart grow fonder. We miss one another so we do enjoy a good catch up here and there. Goodness knows how Karen is gonna be shocked by me the next time she sees me.

I no longer feel easy in my home club. Partly due to the muthafucking idiot who works there (his fucking name is johnny. YES.) and partly it seems my profiling has gone up too high. Beyond my level of comfort. I see the eyes of people whom I don’t wanna be associated with really, watching my every move. This and that. In other words, it has become uncomfortable. Suffocating. Attica is worse. Good music. But salah crowd. Even an ah kua like me can comment on it. *sigh*

Straight clubs probably won’t make me any better. So I conclude it is a combi of a lot of things into one.

Is Phoenyx right? Am I burnt out? Or is it due to DJ influence? Or has things changed, say now that I am in a relationship and my priorities are different and I shift to a more settled down temperement.

I wanna sleep early tonight..and wake up early tomorrow when the sun is out and stuff. I dun wanna wake up, sit around at home till the sun sets and then move out. It sucks.

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Oct 08, 2006 in My Shout Outs

My gosh. Thank goodness the haze is better now…

Gonna check out vivo city later. That’s cuz it is near to keppel club and my mom needs me to do delivery to sushi teh there… *grumbles*

Vivo city, the next big thing!

Anyway, for those who want my dear’s blog address, drop me a mail via SWYSWSY at the link above and i’ll give it to you. Sorta like a ‘pre launch’? hah hah… There’s loads of stuff there but I don’t know why I’m a little hesitant about it. hmm..

We’re looking to see if we can get a myspace profile up too together. Or is friendster better? hmm…

Anyway I came across Mylot.com. There are loads of discussions going on for all you bored souls. You do get paid for your posts too. It isn’t anything dodgy bout it cuz I have tested it. It is a cool place.

If you wanna join, join under me!! -> www.myLot.com?ref=charlesming

Lunch time! Have a good sunday!

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Oct 04, 2006 in My Shout Outs

Was chatting with an ex classmate of mine and he’s down cause he got dumped and all so I was chatting with him for a while. We were schoolmates during the late primary/early secondary years. Him, me and james. The 3 gay boys. Those 2 said the same thing bout me recently when we chatted after a long hiatus. They said back then when they first saw me they knew I was one already! And then I was flipping through my old biography book that they signed during P6 and all. One called himself emily the other angela! Gosh! You know, back then I don’t know bout all these at all. I guess I’m always a slow learner eh? :P

But we’re talking and talking and for once I thought I’d be nice and ‘sayang’ him a little. Something I don’t always do. Cheer him up a little and stuff and it worked quite well. He lamented that we’re old already! i went, dude, look at you. At 27, yes maybe the fun fun days are over but the settle down era has barely begun. You’re fashion designer for magazines, and you have your own shop in town. How many of us have that? You have accomplished a lot. And perhaps, after a short break to break away from the jaded feeling bout love, you’ll be more ready than ever, and people will see that. It is very attractive! A jaded bout love person is so… unattractive? There is this negative aura around and all. Most of us wanna settle down with someone we love one day. But I don’t see why we need to rush. I don’t rush. I am happy being single or with someone, as I am now with the love of my life.

And just talking to luke also made me realise, among all my mood swings and problems in my head and stuff around, that I am very lucky to have found my dear dear. What are the odds? From a place that I will never pick someone from. From a background htat is no where similar to mine. Whether opposites attract or repel, it doesn’t matter cuz it is not the issue. I love him loads and he loves me loads too. And I can feel he really knows how to take care of a relationship. And hence I have been able to put lots of faith and trust down. I may not share the same amount of trust among friends, but I do for the right partner. That he won’t hurt me, or walk out on me one day juz cause ‘he is bored’. Like how someone who said he would never do such a thing, and forever and forever blah blah but he still did. And I let him. How stupid I can be. Ah well. The things we do for love yeh.

My mei mei, princess rach, forever seeming to be entraped in a web of love problems. It is not anyone’s fault for how things turn out. I can see she is afraid to love. She is afraid to start loving someone. Deeply. Only to have her heart broken again. She holds back her affections. She seems to go into denial sometimes when it is clear how she feels towards someone. I don’t blame her. I do empathise with her. We all have fragile hearts. None of us is ever willing to have it broken. I listen to my gut a lot. Perhaps I have that gift.

But how does one break out of the circle of liking someone but he/she doesn’t like you back. But there are others who are interested in you but you have no interest in whatsoever. Always falliing for the wrong people and attracting all the wrong people. Toughie. All I’d say is, don’t restrict oneself to his or her ‘type’. Type referring to the sort of person you would wanna be with. More often than not, someone’s type isn’t someone to settle down with.Rach is a little different. She swings either way. Her type can be the settle down sort. Hmm.. maybe, off the top of my head, she shouldn’t approach people she likes as a friend. She tends to do that. And people may get the wrong idea. The first date is SOOOO critical you cannot screw it up. You give people the feeling that you are just a friend, and that is it. People are looking to see if there is chemistry, for the second date as a date, or as a friend. It makes or breaks things. If you like someone, show him or her that he or she is special in your eyes. Treat the person differently. Some work best knowing a potential partner as friends first ,some don’t. There is no right or wrong really. I looked at my dear dear back then as a potential date, not as just friends. It is different. I would reckon if I treated him as another new friend, he would know and he can feel it too. You can’t explain it but you can feel it.

The chemistry between friends and romance is worlds apart. And chemistry, it just is soooo important. It is like oxygen. Without it, no fire can ever be ignited. Even a fire that is burning will soon die without it. It is important to have it flowing all the time, during dating or during a relationship. I hope to be able todo that with my darling all the time.

He’s such a wonderful guy. And to all my friends out there, and those whom I do not know alike, I do hope for love in your lives. Friends. Family. Partner. We were born to love and be loved. Let’s just stop fighting against it and embrace that simple fact. When you are ready to love, you’ll attract it.

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Oct 04, 2006 in My Shout Outs

Caught a show today at GV. Errr.. what’s the title..

Ah. It’s Stayin Alive. This horror flik where people who play the game Stayin Alive start dying the same way they did in the game. They must complete the game by solving the mystery behind it. More importantly, they must STAY ALIVE.

It pretty much began the same way most of them begin (the first victim, that triggers off everything that follows) right up to the hero of the show when he kills the ‘evil monster’ and saves the day. No surprises or twists in this one. The whole idea of the game gave me more questions than answers. For those who watched it, there was a scene where a guy died in the rose bush. As seen by the computer screen. I suppose he may have survived cuz he had roses which he could use. He popped out of no where towards the end of the show and I don’t know what it is behind the whole issue.

Thereafter it was day 2 of our training. Sorry, no photos for today. Nothing post worthy. if you want pics you can look at my dear’s blog instead. He has like 20 pictures taken each day and he puts them all up *rolls eyes*.

Training wise, there’s loads to achieve for the end of the month. Not too sure if we can make it cuz honestly half my mind is on other stuff which means I aint concentrating fully and I don’t know what will happen. But either way the simple rules to follow on the training system is :

1. Enough rest.
2. No alcohol.
3. Save money
4. Eat smart
5. Save money
6. Get enough fluids
7. Did I say save money already?

I guess there’s a lot to look out for indeed. Things are definitely not going the way I want but I’m trying to bottle up as much as I can and cross my fingers that things will get better soon.

Another question is, will I do something different this halloween? We’re training hard for that actually cause we are gonna bear some flesh?? Anyway, anything other than just giving halloween a miss would be different. We’ll see what happens..

It was a lil shopping prior to gym though. Had to run to guardian to get some stuff. I could almost see the ????? on the lady cashier’s face hahaha! Like I CARE.

And no it iis not condoms la!

U wanna know what we bought? U ask my dear loh…..

Time to get back to my assignment.

Quote of the day : I am veety clean!

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Oct 02, 2006 in My Shout Outs

When moods get the better of me, I take it out on metal. Like this :

It has been a while since I’ve touched metal. Boy it felt good..

Topic with ben today is about ‘predictions’. His bro has to get the chinese traditional wedding out of the way before the 15th comes along. Else…

What is your stand on such predictions? I am sure you may have seen what happens to people who choose to go against them.

For me, I rather not know. Has it ever occured, perhaps, just perhaps, destiny has things a certain way. And some busy body comes along to mess it up and alter the path of nature. Sure, perhaps you manage to avert a disaster, but at what price? What if it went to someone you love instead? Or maybe a bigger price, awaits you eventually? The repurcussions of messing around with destiny.

We don’t know the future for a good reason. So why mess with it? Perhaps I may have disasters coming my way. But if I have led a good happy life, that’s all that matters to me really.

Hence I rather not know. I don’t wanna know. By knowing it could affect one’s quality of life too. Take things as they come and deal with them as they occur. Life’s too short to meddle with. I feel a tad better now.

I really, really want *IT*!

Music : Chaka Khan – Through The Fire

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Oct 01, 2006 in My Shout Outs

I came across this article in the ST – Gen Y section today.

It made me recall the day Diesel died. I wasn’t there when she breathed her last. She just slept and never woke up. When whiskey died, I wasn’t there too. On her final trip to the animal hospital, i wasn’t there. I did go over the following day but found out that she had been cremated with the other dogs already.

Each pet brought such fond memories. Each pet taught me lessons. They loved me. And I loved them. A true, innocent, honest and pure form of love. Genuine love. In a relationship where the pet never betrays its master. If there were any form of betrayal, it would be the other way round. The trust and faith a pet puts on its maser is something I’ve always wished I could do. Sure, maybe you’d say dogs are not as intelligent. They are quite stupid. Perhaps they don’t know how to count and speak english. But look at myself. I’m a scheming, cunning arse who is capable of doing lots of horrid things if I wish to. A dog’s life today is nothing like the past. It looks forward to seeing its master at the end of the day. It’s next meal. Provides comfort and solace. It lies next to you and feels your emotions quietly. It doesn’t judge you. And it does love you. I remember the finals days of whiskey’s life, where she had to run into the bathroom ever so often. She chose to lay just outside the bathroom, refusing to move further from it even though it wasn’t that weak yet. It seemed as if she is worried she would dirty the floor outside if she didn’t make it into the bathroom in time. She never wanted to trouble us. She has been one of us and will always be one of us. With Diesel, she’s pretty much the same. EXcusing herself when she knows she could be getting in the way. She never gave us any problems at all. Not once. Sure, I still carry a scar from a bite she gave me when I first took her home, and you know what, in a way I’m happy she did. Everytime I see the scar, I’d think of her.

Folks, please don’t ill treat your pets. No matter what. They don’t deserve it one bit. Pets aside, don’t ill treat any animals at all. They all have equal rights to roam this earth as we do. As a kid I’ve seen how the market people slit the throats of chickens and then throw them into a steamer to remove their feathers. The chickens were steamed alive. Literally. And what about the clips we see online of how they handle certain animals. Skinning an animal alive for its coat or fur. In a kingdom where i is a dog eat dog world, it is fair to say we need to kill to eat and survive. But if it has to die, can it be done in a humane way. Such a small helpless creature. We are such big bullies aren’t we. “Pick someone or something of your own size”, I’d say.

One day I’ll adopt another dog again. I don’t wanna buy one off the shelves from a pet store. They are normally of good breeds yes, but are they necessarily worth less than the local cross bred ones? The fortunate breeds are those that are in high demand but it doesn’t make them better pets than the other less popular ones.A pet is not a show piece nor a furniture. It is a relationship between a master and a pet. You’ll know if a particular animal is right for you, if you use more than just your eyes to observe.

Don’t let a shiny coat fool you. As some say, it’s okay to let a fool kiss you, but let not a kiss fool you.

Here’s the story from ST. Thank you laura, for sharing.

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Saying goodbye to my dog Milkshake

The Pen Awards 2006 Upper Secondary Category 2nd Prize Winner Laura Tan Li Ting of Methodist Girls’ School
FOR as long as I can remember, my family consisted of five and a half members.

My father, my mother, my two sisters and I made up the five. The last half is our golden retriever, Milkshake. He was considered to be one of the family because he shared our joy and sorrows and joined us in our family activities as much as possible.

Milkshake had always been a part of my life because we grew up together. We got him when I was one. At that time, he was only a puppy. By the time I was three, he and I were inseparable. We played together, got dirty together and slept together.

When I was young, Milkshake played a very significant role in my life. He was the only one whom I could pour out my troubles to without worrying about boring him to tears. After I had confided in him, he would give me a comforting lick that would always make me feel better. Even though he was shared by the family, he was my special friend.

As I grew older, I ended up spending less time with Milkshake because there always seemed to be something else that was more important. Furthermore, he was getting enough attention from everyone else and I was sure he would not miss me.

In July last year, we brought Milkshake for his health check-up only to find that he was diagnosed with cancer.

I was dumbfounded and could not believe what I was hearing. The whole earth came crashing down upon me. I wished it was a just a nightmare and once I woke up, everything would resume as usual. Unfortunately, it was the cold, hard truth. Milkshake only had another three more months to live.

The months flew by like lightning and it was soon time for my end-of-year examinations. Although the exams were just around the corner, I did not have the heart to study. Every single minute of my time in the day was spent with Milkshake, whose condition was deteriorating fast and was getting thinner and weaker each day.

Every minute spent with him was precious in my eyes. Only after he went to sleep was I willing to leave his side so I ended up burning the midnight oil. Yet, no matter how tired I was the following day, I would not allow myself to fall asleep lest something happened.

On the night before my examinations, Milkshake was wheezing very badly and could barely move an inch. I knew that Milkshake would definitely not make it through the next day.

Milkshake was top priority at that moment and everything else seemed completely insignificant. I wanted desperately to be there in the last moments of his life, so I sacrificed my sleep and stayed up through the night and stroked him as he rested against my knee.

Morning came and I had to go to school. I was debating with myself whether or not to go to but my mother forced me to. Initially, I protested but after being reassured that Milkshake was in good hands, I gave in. Before leaving the house, I gave Milkshake a kiss and promised to be back soon.

Throughout the examination, my thoughts were all on Milkshake. I could not pull myself together to concentrate on the paper. There was another paper that I had to sit for after a short break. While my classmates were pacing up and down the corridor trying to cram last-minute knowledge into their head, I dashed downstairs to call home to check on Milkshake.

My mother reported that judging by his behaviour, he may not make it till I come home. I was torn between staying at school and going home to bid Milkshake a final farewell. My mother insisted that I stay so she put me on speakerphone. I told Milkshake that he must wait for me no matter what, wait till I come home.

My voice alone seemed to give Milkshake more strength and courage to fight on and he lifted up his head as though he wanted to assure me. After taking my final paper for the day, I rushed all the way back to Milkshake’s bedside.

When I pushed open the door, Milkshake was lying on his mat. He was very weak. His wheezing had become worse and was having difficulty breathing. I ran to sit down beside him. He gave his tail a little wag, as though greeting me when I arrived back home, just like old times.

‘Thanks for waiting for me!’ I whispered tearfully as I gave him a comforting pat. Upon sensing my presence, he gingerly lifted up his head and looked deep into my eyes. I felt tears welling up inside my eyes. Choking them back, I added, ‘You have been a good dog, Milkshake. It is alright for you to rest now.’

Tears started rolling uncontrollably down my face. He gratefully gave me one last lick and he breathed his last breath.

My heart felt as though it was being ripped apart. Memories of Milkshake flooded my mind. I could picture myself playing with him, laughing and having lots of fun. I could just imagine his twinkling eyes looking at me and his tail wagging vigorously whenever he saw me come home from school.

I could recall how much fun we had together while we were both growing up, how he listened patiently to my problems, lent me a shoulder to cry on when I was sad and shared many happy times with me. Tears silently rolled down my eyes.

I lost my best friend and could never get him back. All the joy, the laughter, the sorrow, the fun had all become a thing of the past. That was truly the day that changed my life. I lost something of great value and importance to me, the friendship of my best companion, a friendship built on love and trust, a friendship that was irreplaceable.

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Oct 01, 2006 in My Shout Outs

Noris said one thing last night that made me think. For one, my mom beat him in drinking and dancing. Noris is now convinced totally, the queen of clubs deserves her title. He also added that all homos dream of having a mom like mine. She even beats Michael’s mom from QAF. Pretty true I think. Noris said he’ll die to have a mom like mine, and he’s sure so would everyone else.

Once upon a time I figured, I’ll be happy the day I got past this hurdle. I have everything don’t I? I have everything money can’t buy. I ought to be the happinest person on earth. Yet, there’s a missing link somewhere. I don’t know where, I don’t know what. Maybe I ask for too much. Maybe I expect too much, so much so it holds me back to a lot of things.

And then, I get reminded of that night. That fateful night. When my heart hurt a whole lot. Like how it did 3 years ago. What does it mean this time? Will it be the same as the past? I don’t know. *sigh* But after all that is said and done, it does make me think, and wonder. Where is the missing piece to the puzzle. Where oh where art thou…

I don’t have doubts. I have faith. I have trust. Yet, I still have fear.

People know how cold and hard my armour is when I turn it on. When I lock myself within myself and not let anyone else through. It is impenetrable.. That is what it was originally designed for anyway.

I know what I want. Do you?

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Oct 01, 2006 in My Shout Outs

I really don’t understand a lot of things. I don’t know why everyone likes to complicate things and have complicated and political stuff around them. This is not how I am like nor am I interested in this kind of lifestyle. I’m happy with what I have and the simplicities of life. Less is more.. all so often. When people think simple and lead simple lives, that’s what makes me happy. Happiness and simplicity is literally married together. Never to be divorced.

It is 1st Oct. Anniversary day. What’s an anniversary to you all? A number game? A significance? A time stamp in one’s life journey? Should one feel more secure that a relationship has its anniversary digit increase day by day?

Time, in my books, is a very low level ranking. Time heals wounds but that’s probably all there is to it. Being together for a long time is no indication of how things is, and how things will go. What matters more to be is the chemistry. Between friends. Between lovers. Even between family members. One can look at fate, bringing them friends and partners as well as family members. Destiny however, is for one to have a control over. I love the little things that happen in my life. The friends I have. The person I love. The crap and obstacles that come my way. The people that come and go. Each of them perhaps happen for a reason. A reason that I may never know even till the day I die. But it doesn’t really matter. Getting an answer, may bring even more questions. What I have, I treasure and adore and protect. There are things that are not meant to be.

I want love. A simple innocent (perhaps even puppy) sorta love. I want to love a person and for the person to love me too. I want to be there for the person when he needs, through ups and downs, through tears and laughs. I hope the person will be there for me too. A commitment. Sure, there are loads more involved. But I find people focus too much on the nonsense, and forget the simple things in life. It is very very sad when people fight over problems, and forget the love they have for one another.

True love is so hard to come by. Love on it’s own is so sacred and is such a miracle. I don’t like it to be tainted with the many things we put ourselves through by OUR own choice. We do have a choice and can decide on what and how we deal with things, don’t we?

1st Oct. An anniversary. And also a self imposed 1 month ban on clubbing. Sorry Ben… gotta count me out this month. I’ll see if I need to revoke this self imposed ban. But for now, 1 month it is. We can do everything else, but head down to the you-know-where place. I think I really need a break. I really do.

Happy childrens’ day. For all those celebrating. Hey, we are all kids at heart still yeah. What? You mean you aint a kid no more? I’m so sorry to hear that…

Happy Bday pamy. Though you probaby won’t see this. Hopefully I’ll remember to send you an sms later in the day though.

The quote of the week is : Less is More.

Music : Superchumbo – Dirty Filthy